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Feeling overstressed? Here are some signs you need better self care

You could fully blossom into your power and use your strength to create beauty, love and harmony for yourself and the world…If you only had the time & energy. We need to acknowledge that the long term effects of stress are a very real problem, and then take care of our sweet selves more seriously.

Act as if your life, livelihood, and health depended on stress management. In addition to all that, it’s affecting your relationships, clarity of thinking and how you show up each day. It’s time to act as if your energy imprint meant something. Which it does. It all matters.

Woman combing her hair – W. McGregor Paxton

You matter.

How you take care of yourself matters. Even those of us that are well partnered, in a large family, that have some support or team that helps handle the responsibility that life’s been demanding… it often feels like there’s still too much to do.

If you’ve got any relationship drama, family problems, or other people in your life that just aren’t pulling their weight…you could be the one feeling the entire weight of any success or failures on your lone shoulders. 

This leads to doing too much, overworking and losing track of what’s happening at home and within. In addition, here are some of the signs to look for that indicate that you might be headed toward a burnout.

Naptime-Dominique Amendola

Insomnia or Fatigue

..Both prevent you from enjoying life. The human body is only capable of handling so much stress without giving your body and brain enough time to recover before starting another high-stress day. At some point your body will want to give up, causing severe fatigue and possibly other illnesses that’ll keep you out of the game.

If your brain can’t shut down because you’re consumed with work, decision making, or relationship drama, your sleep pattern will get disrupted. More importantly, the aboriginal people say the Dreamtime sacred. That it’s the beginning of knowledge, from which came the laws of existence. You don’t want to be separated from that.

Decision fatigue

A new kind of tired. It’s a common problem of today’s fast-paced society. Making tons of decisions all day erodes your willpower, which can create unhealthy, unhelpful patterns. Extended periods of time making complex decisions will make you feel fried. Secondly, being overtired and lacking energy for anything meaningful or fun, affects your satisfaction- overall. Meaning, you’re likely to be dissatisfied-more often than not…Maybe even, possibly…angry. Keep making those faces and it’ll freeze like that. 

For every minute you are angry you lose 60 seconds of happiness.

-Ralph waldo Emerson


It keeps you from the good stuff.  Cringing at the length of your to-do list? Did the tasks that once excited you, now make you want to curl up on the couch with snacks? Your creative muses left you, and you’re feeling like you’d never get anything done anyway…right??? Procrastination leads to missed opportunities and feelings of low self worth. In other words, you’re literally delaying your own good.

Changes in appetite

Maybe stress causes you to overeat comfort foods, or binge on sweets or chips. For others, there’s no joy in food, and the stress reduces the appetite.. Neither extreme is good for your body. One simple strategy for better health and mental peace, is taking lunch breaks away from your desk or couch and choose natural, healthy good food instead of fast food garbage-y things. Check out my program Better Foods for Better moods and weight loss.

Better foods for better moods in the Sanctuary- Jessamina


High stress causes anxiety, which can cause a crippling fear, other physical symptoms or a variety of dis-ease. Keep in mind: there’s a big difference between the anxiety you feel when stepping out of your comfort zone versus stress-induced anxiety that doesn’t seem to go away. Just noticing this can make a big difference.

First, take responsibility for your whole body, mind, and spirit. Then take quiet time to relax. Get outdoors and breathe in some fresh air. Perhaps try unplugging for a whole weekend and live in the moment with your family. Reconnect with old friends. Start a hobby. The choices are limitless.

Moreover, a self care balance makes you, your work, and your family happy. As a result, making time for self-care and relaxation will improve your overall health and mental wellbeing. It’s safe to conclude self care’s a great investment.

There’s a space here dedicated to magical self-care. I call it the Sanctuary. You’ll discover that simple changes in your own life and mindset can create happiness and success with way less stress.  Check it out here