Simple practices that make a HUGE difference.
Practice any- and each of these frequently. These prompts are infusions of love.
Express Gratitude
It’s simple and it’s miraculous.
Reach out and let them know one specific thing you’re grateful for about them. Be sincere. Be specific.
WHY IT WORKS: Gratitude not only boosts your mood but also makes them feel valued and appreciated.
Personal example: My husband was standing in the middle of our living room surrounded by his friends and family. Surprise party for his 40th. An hour into the party, he was wearing a Viking helmet and absolutely gushing about how much he loves and appreciates me. He’s not a typically verbal guy, so it was very special to me. Also iconically hilarious. I express gratitude as often and in-the-moment as possible. It truly makes a difference in how we both feel immediately.
One of the biggest relationship complaints I hear is that they don’t feel appreciated.
Steps to try it:
- Reflect on the person’s positive qualities or actions that have impacted you.
- Grab a notecard or piece of paper and a pen or say it right to their face as you think of it.
- Start your note- toast- words of thanks- with a warm greeting or smile.
- Express your gratitude, being specific about what you’re thankful for.
- End with a sincere closing and sign your name, or kiss or hug or squeeze or whatever seems appropriate
Celebrate Small Wins
Not just birthdays or anniversaries, but the small victories. Did they accomplish something at work? Did they finish a personal project? Celebrate those moments.
WHY IT WORKS: Every win, big or small, deserves recognition.
Personal example,”Yay the front flower bed is clear! Spring is here! It looks great.” While sipping something together and admiring the work area.
Steps to try it:
- Identify a Win: Think about a recent achievement they’ve had.
- Plan a Celebration: Organize a small celebration to recognize their win.
- Share Joy: Spend time enjoying the moment and each other’s company.
- Offer Praise: Discuss how proud you are of their accomplishment.
- Bonus: Reflect on Positivity: Talk about how celebrating small wins enhances your connection and then practice more!
Recall and Share Humor
Laughter is a great connector.
Remind them of a shared joke or funny incident. Use the silly voice. Say the line from the movie. Act it out with the exaggerated face that makes them laugh. Use a prop. Use the language or vocabulary or specific word that makes it all really funny. Try not to make it weird. Lol. Just kidding. My husband and I say the craziest shit to each other that I don’t even wanna type out here. LOL
WHY IT WORKS: A shared laugh can instantly uplift the mood.
Steps to try it:
- Choose a Joke: Think about a funny memory or joke you share.
- Set the Scene: Find a safe place to talk freely
- Share the Joke: Remind them of the joke or memory.
- Share Laughter: Enjoy the shared laughter and joy.
- Bonus: Reflect with them how you enjoy their laugh, smile or particular sense of humor
Schedule Regular Check-ins
Set a reminder to check in on them if you must. You care about them and your relationship.
WHY IT WORKS: Regular conversations, check-ins, even short ones, show consistent care and strengthen bonds.
Personal example my husband and I check in most days at a specific time-frame (right before lunch) on workdays. We can hear each other’s voices (and tone) and see how the day is going so far. We keep it brief. Under 10 minutes usually. On weekends if we both are home but on separate projects, I check in by bringing him a drink. It’s an opportunity to say hey how’s it going, sneak a kiss or just hydrate together. (yes water is a theme with us).
Steps to try it
- Set a loose Schedule: Decide how often + a convenient time for your check-ins. Make it easy.
- Be Consistent: Make an effort
- Share Openly: Discuss your thoughts and feelings during the check-ins. Ok to keep it brief
Add your specific flavor and personality and enjoy the opportunity for creative expression.
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